Everyone has some idea of what their ideal life looks like. Whether it means affording to travel freely, coming home to a loving family, or having all the cats and dogs in the world. But things are getting harder by the second. It can be nearly impossible just getting out of bed in the morning. Why is it so much easier giving in to negativity than it is to get out of it? Depression doesn’t just weigh down our shoulders. It lies, often telling us that we’re not in control of our lives, but we are. Whatever you’re going through, know it’s not always going to be like this. Here are eight tips for dealing with suicidal thoughts:
1) Don’t spend the night alone. When you’re suicidal, it will be tempting to isolate yourself. Do you lock yourself in your room, shut the blinds and hide underneath your covers? The thing about depression is that the darkness will welcome you, but this only makes you susceptible to believe your negative thoughts.
Watch out for your safety, and don’t spend the night alone. Call up your family, friends or lover. Tell them how you’re feeling. If possible, sleeping over at their place is even better. Having company around can do wonders for you because it means keeping those bad thoughts at bay, or allowing the new environment to boost your mood.
2) Cut off all ties with toxic people. Research shows that keeping toxic people in your life isn’t just stressful, it can actually kill you. One study showed that subjects in negative relationships had a higher risk of developing cardiac problems. If someone is abusing you, physically or emotionally, please call the police for help. Your life might drastically change if your family members or partner are the toxic ones, but realize that they’re putting you in more pain than they are supporting you.
3) Make a list of your accomplishments. Hey you, yeah you, look at how far you’ve come! Failure can seem like a big slap in the face, but we often obsess over perfection instead of focusing on what we’ve achieved.
There’s a difference: striving for perfection doesn’t allow you to be human. Embrace your flaws, failures and downfalls as much as you appreciate all the milestones you’ve reached. Listen closely to what isn’t working, turn those into lessons, and grow resilient.
4) Practice positive mantras. These are otherwise known as coping statements. Ending your life will seem like the only option to end your misery, but nothing lasts forever. Practice saying some of these: “I will get through this.” “This is my depression talking, not me.” “I don’t really want to die, I just want the pain to end.” Stick these to your mirror, fridge and carry them wherever you go.
Let them be friendly reminders to be kind to yourself. You got this!
5) Find a therapist. Most people shrug this idea off because they might not be able to afford it. But there are options, especially if you’re a student. An open mind is what will ultimately get you help. Call your insurance company for any insights they might have. It never hurts to ask your family doctor too. Networks exists for a reason, and the more professional advice you receive, the faster you can find and work with a professional.
6) If it’s urgent, please call the police. This won’t necessarily stop your suicidal thoughts but they will stop you from going through with the act.
From here on out, they can take you to the ER where you’ll be safe. We hope you never have to resort to this, but want to remind you that help is only one call away.
7) Find out what’s hurting you and make changes to it. Do you feel stuck at your dead-end job? Tired of the city you’re living in? Or not sure about what you’re studying in school? It’s ok to address that you’re feeling unhappy, but don’t succumb to helplessness. It may take time to find what works for you, but this is why practicing patience is so pivotal. Big projects seem intimidating, but break them up into smaller tasks to make them more approachable. Remember, as you wait for your miracle, never stop working on yourself in the mean time.
8) Whatever you do, please don’t lose hope! I know it’s easier said than done, but committing suicide will end everything, including the amazing days ahead that you won’t be alive for. People usually realize too late, while they’re in the middle of the act, that every problem they ever faced could have been fixed. So please reconsider your health. You deserve so much more! What do you do to keep going or stay inspired? We want you to know that you’re not alone and we’re sending our best wishes your way.